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Whitney Way Thore Tells the Internet Trolls to Stay Away: ‘I Take No Stock in Your Opinion’

Whitney Way Thore is done with the cruel comments she gets on social media.

The star of My Big Fat Fabulous Life enjoys sharing her life with her followers on Instagram and Twitter, but feels like the rude messages she gets invade the “home” shes created.

Thore, 33, said that she chooses not to read the comments, but that sometimes its unavoidable.

“Being a public figure makes you especially vulnerable to other peoples opinions — and we all know that many people feel the need to incessantly say everything on their mind, usually unsolicited,” she wrote in an Instagram post. “These opinions can range from fairly innocuous but annoying (That outfit is really unflattering on you.), to rude and pointless (Youre ugly.), to abusive (You should kill yourself.). Seeing these opinions is something that will always happen if I want to engage on my own social media, where people who really get me and support me are.”

Thore said that she prefers not to delete the negative comments, but on the rare occasions she does, people accuse her of violating their freedom of speech, or being too sensitive.

Being a public figure makes you especially vulnerable to other peoples opinions — and we all know that many people feel the need to incessantly say everything on their mind, usually unsolicited. These opinions can range from fairly innocuous but annoying (“That outfit is really unflattering on you.”), to rude and pointless (“Youre ugly.”), to abusive (“You should kill yourself.”) I make it a point to avoid these comments as much as possible; I never read YouTube comments or comments on an article about me. I never look at the #MyBigFatFabLife hashtag on Twitter—but still, seeing these “opinions” is something that will always happen if I want to engage on my own social media, where people who really get me and support me are. . I usually dont have the energy to block, mute, and delete. Sometimes I leave abusive comments simply so others can see the kind of attention living in a fat body garners. But when I do delete comments, whether they are annoying, rude, or abusive, people will often say things like: . “See, you DO care what others think.” “Wow, I must have really struck a nerve.” “You delete everyone who doesnt agree with you.” “I have FREEDOM OF SPEECH!” . Lets think critically about this. To be clear, you can be as racist, ignorant, fatphobic, misogynistic, transphobic, and as downright nasty as you want to be. You can think these thoughts all day long; you can share them with people who agree with you. You can stand on the street and say whatever you want…but if you come to my home and knock on my door, I wouldnt let you in, right? I would close the door and shut the windows, because my home is MY space and why would I choose to be harassed? . My digital spaces are also my home—theyre mine. No one is stopping you from shouting your hate (or opinions) into the ether. You can have your opinions about me as a public person, and as much as you think Im asking for it, or it comes along with the territory, I dont have to honor your unsolicited opinions. . When you come into my space, I can make you leave. This doesnt mean I cant handle a contrary opinion. It means I take no stock in your opinion and its unnecessary noise.

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The dancer said that much like she wouldnt want someone who is attacking her to be in her physical home, she doesnt want them in her digital home either.

“My digital spaces are also my home — theyre mine. No one is stopping you from shouting your hate (or opinions) into the ether. You can have your opinions about me as a public person, and as much as you think Im asking for it, or it comes along with the territory, I dont have to honor your unsolicited opinions,” Thore said.

She clarified that if she deletes someones comment, that means shes kicking them out of her digital home.

“When you come into my space, I can make you leave,” she said. “This doesnt mean I cant handle a contrary opinion. It means I take no stock in your opinion and its unnecessary noise.”

This is the second time in two weeks that Thore has spoken out about the rude comments she gets on Instagram. In another post, she called out the “accusatory” messages shes getting about her body.

“Recently Ive gotten a lot of comments and DMs with an…accusatory nature, asking me questions like, If you work out so much, why dont you lose weight? What are you eating? and things like…If youre going to post workouts and not meals, that isnt fair; were not getting the full picture, ” she said on April 8, before detailing the medical issues — from PCOS to disordered eating — that keep her from losing weight.

Recently Ive gotten a lot of comments and DMs with an…accusatory nature, asking me questions like, “If you work out so much, why dont you lose weight? What are you eating?” and things like…”If youre going to post workouts and not meals, that isnt fair; were not getting the full picture.” ? . You will never have a “full picture” of me, even from television. Do you know we shoot about 1,000 hours of footage a season that gets whittled down to fewer than 20 hours? The majority of instances anyone is shown eating are social situation or meals had while out dining. You also never see me shower, or go to the drugstore, or brush my teeth, or feed my cats, or read a book (or WRITE a book, for that matter), or sleep—are you to believe I dont do those things, either, just because you didnt see them? . For those of you who speculate about my eating habits, Ill give you this: •I used to struggle with disordered eating, both purging (but not traditional “bingeing.” I used to purge regular meals), as well as restricting (eating as little as a few hundred calories a day for months at a time). The last time I engaged in either of these behaviors was in 2011 when I lost 100 pounds and —ironically— everyone thought I was so healthy. •I typically eat once or twice a day (but Im working on eating more regularly. Its a huge challenge for me). •Sometimes I eat past the point of fullness. •Sometimes I dont eat enough to satisfy hunger. •Ive been insulin resistant for 14 years due to PCOS, and that has an effect on weight gain and weight loss—no matter what weight you are. •PCOS in and of itself did not make me this fat, but it did cause me to gain a significant amount of weight over several months when I was 18. •Insulin-resistant PCOS coupled with shame, depression, disordered eating, alcohol, and lots of weight losses and weight gains have led me to where I am today. Some of this was a choice; some of it was not. . Where I am today is a woman who, just like you, is trying to be balanced, who is trying to be healthy (also mentally and emotionally), and who is just…doing her best. Thats it. •••photo by @@marie_killen//HMU by @shinypretties

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“Where I am today is a woman who, just like you, is trying to be balanced, who is trying to be healthy (also mentally and emotionally), and who is just…doing her best. Thats it.” she said.

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